3 Main Red Flags To Help You Spot a Relationship Predator

Before I get into the red flags, allow me to define what exactly a relationship predator is and does.

According to the popular therapy website often recommended by Dr. John Delony, BetterHelp.com, “…predatory behavior may look like an attempt to trick, manipulate, or control other people to get what one wants without regard for the harm it causes.” That pretty much says it all.

On an elementary basis, the red flags are similar to the narcissist cycle, which includes:

• Love Bombing
• Devaluing
• Discarding

When we dial down into specific behavior, most Relationship Predators operate with the same tools. Although there are many red flags to look for, for the purpose of brevity, I’ve narrowed it down to 3 main red flags:

• ADORATION: A predator will almost worship you and everything about you. You can do no wrong. They love everything about you. Their flattery toward what you’re wearing and how you look is over the top. They will declare their love for you within a very short time. While it’s nice to be complimented, predators will take it to the next level to where it’s almost nauseating.
• COMMITMENT: A predator will boldly announce that they want a long-term commitment with you. They may hint that marriage is in their plans and that they can’t live their lives without you. Predators prey on the neediness and loneliness of their targets.
• DIVIDE AND CONQUER: Once a predator has infiltrated your life they will start creating division between you and your close family members. They want to separate you so they can conquer your emotions and self-worth and ultimately control and manipulate you. They will tell you how to dress, they will often discard your possessions, and they will require you to ask permission before you go places.

If you’re experiencing any or all of these red flags, STOP, BREATHE, and RUN FOR THE HILLS! You can’t fix a relationship predator, you can only fix YOU!

If you’re in a situation where you can’t escape, do your best to surround yourself with positive, supportive people who can rally around you. Supportive people can be found in church, in organizations like Hope for the Heart with June Hunt, a Biblical resource ministry, or even your local community resources.

If you’re in the midst of relationship deception trauma today and could really use a listening, empathetic ear, book a Heart Restoration Conversation. I’ve been there and I know the emotional devastation and heart-crushing experience it is.

Walk in your worth!